Sex and Intimacy Issues

Rediscovering true connection and safety

Sex and Porn Addiction

Sexual addiction is defined as any sexually-related, compulsive behavior which interferes with normal living and causes severe stress on family, friends, loved ones, and one’s work environment. Sexual addiction has other names: sexual dependency, sexual compulsivity, sexual mania, uncontrollable sex appetite, to name a few. What ever you call it, sexual addiction feels out of control and can dominate a person’s life.

A simple way to question the presence of addiction is to ask two questions:

  1. Is there a loss of control or an inability
    to stop the behavior?
  2. Does the behavior continue despite
    adverse consequences?

Individuals suffering from sexual addiction are willing to sacrifice what they cherish most in order to preserve and continue their unhealthy behavior.

Concerned you may have issues with Porn or sex addiction? Click the link below to complete a short survey.  This survey is designed to assist in the assessment of sexually compulsivity and may indicate the presence of sex addiction. *

CLICK HERE to take the short survey.

*This is not a replacement for professional assessment and treatment.

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Intimacy Issues and Relationship Building

Intimacy is an essential part of a healthy love relationship. Intimacy can be defined as the ability to share of one’s self with another. Intimacy requires a level of vulnerability to connect on spiritual, emotional and physical levels. We have come to believe that sexual addiction develops because of an underlying problem with intimacy. Those with sexual addiction often have issue with trust, fear connection and/or shy away from vulnerability. Sexually “acting out” becomes the way the addict can seek out intimacy without emotional connection.

Partners of sexual addiction often feel, sad, angry, hurt and confused along with many other emotions. Partners often experience symptoms of trauma from suffering sexual and/or emotional betrayal from their loved one.

Treatment for intimacy issues and sexual addiction focuses on rebuilding relationships. Clients will work toward improving healthy communication, repairing trust, and validating feelings of betrayal while working toward reconnection on all levels of intimacy.

What is Sexual Anorexia?

Sexual anorexia is a perpetual state of avoiding sex. This obsessive behavior includes the complete physical, mental, and emotional overwhelming of one’s life with the avoidance of anything sexual. Like self-starvation with food or compulsive dieting or hoarding with money, deprivation of sex can make one feel powerful and defended against all hurts.

This avoidance alters the way a person feels just like any other method of altering moods would do, such as use of alcohol or drugs, habitual anger, compulsive eating or gambling, etc.

This produces an escape from reality and the illusion of life having less or no problems. It is the obsession itself that produces the escape. This then becomes the coping method of the individual’s life and all focus and energy is spent on this goal in order to feel safe and in control.

Unfortunately this way of dealing with life comes at great cost to one’s personal life, the lives of family and friends.

Treatment For Sexual Issues

We begin by sitting down with our clients and in a setting of complete confidentiality, we carefully listen and help our clients to become clear about what their sexual addiction issue is about. We then develop a treatment plan that is structured and may include individual therapy, group therapy, and community support approaches for healing and recovery.

We utilize the approach developed by Patrick Carnes PhD, including the 30 tasks of sexual recovery, trauma work, repairing the damage done by betrayal, and teaching our clients how to be intimate emotionally, relationally and sexually. Our clinicians are Certified Sexual Addiction Therapists credentialed by the International Institute of trauma and Addictions Therapists (IITAP-CSAT) who specialize in treating sexual addiction and sexual anorexia.

We also are experienced in helping couples to recover from the trauma of infidelity and betrayal by intervening to restore fidelity, trust, and develop intimacy in the relationship.

Getting back to your true self is only a call away.

Call us at

505-242-6988 X129

and take your first step.